When a man loves a woman, Can’t keep his mind on nothin’ else
“When a Man Loves a Woman” — Percy Sledge
Men love women. Men love men. Women love men. And women love women. When it comes to love, no one is ever excluded. These words, inspired by a popular song, are meant to celebrate the way a certain kind of man — the one a woman calls “a good one” or “a keeper” — loves the woman who is the love of his life.
When a good man loves a woman … he is present.
… he doesn’t just listen, he hears.
… he never ignores her.
… he stays up with her when she can’t sleep.
… he shows up in her life, again, and again, and again.
When a good man loves a woman … he is patient.
… he gives her time to get ready.
… he lets her vent.
… he answers the same question over and over again.
… he never dismisses her worries or fears.
When a good man loves a woman … he is supportive.
… he always has her back and never holds her back.
… he takes her side with his friends and his family.
… he will walk a mile in the rain for her.
… he will drive to the drugstore in the middle of the night for “supplies.”
When a good man loves a woman … he is committed.
… he holds a space in his heart for her that no one else can enter.
… if she gave him a ring, he wears it.
… he plans for their shared future.
… he invests in her dreams.
When a good man loves a woman … he is grateful.
… he is thankful for her presence.
… he is appreciative of her gifts.
… he wears the clothes she buys him.
… he never, ever, ever feels entitled.
When a good man loves a woman … he is humble.
… he is never unforgiving.
… he celebrates her success.
… he apologizes when he’s wrong and appreciates an apology when he’s right.
… he doesn’t make the same mistake twice.
When a good man loves a woman … he is smitten.
… she is his sun, his earth, his stars, and his moon.
… he saves her cards and letters … forever.
… his heart quickens when he hears her footsteps.
… he sneaks a sniff of her underwear in the laundry.
When a good man loves a woman … he is honorable.
… she can count on his word
… he never uses her vulnerability against her.
… he will never embarrass her.
… a pinky swear is a solemn promise.
When a good man loves a woman … he is respectful.
… he treasures her possessions.
… he treats her friends as his own.
… he never wastes her time.
… he never shows contempt.
When a good man loves a woman … he values her independence.
… he never tries to control her.
… he doesn’t always need to know where she is.
… it’s OK if she earns more than he does.
… he lets her work her magic.
When a good man loves a woman … he is generous.
… he gives unrelentingly and unresentfully.
… he never feels she’s taking, only that he is sharing.
… what’s his is hers, without reservation.
… he doesn’t keep a running tab.
When a good man loves a woman … he is kind-hearted.
… he shares his burdens but does not dump them on her.
… he loves her kids, even if they are not his own.
… he chooses his words carefully in disagreements.
… he never, ever, ever puts her down.
When a good man loves a woman … he is protective.
… he doesn’t allow her to hurt herself.
… he steers her away from toxic people, even those who claim to love her.
… he opens doors and carries her bags for her.
… he wraps her in a blanket or his coat when she’s cold.
When a good man loves a woman … he takes care of himself — -for both of them.
… he always strives to be his best self for her.
… he attends to his physical and mental health.
… he is into self-improvement.
… he doesn’t take unnecessary risks.
When a good man loves a woman … he is romantic.
… he doesn’t forget special occasions.
… he doesn’t give her gifts that are “for him.”
… he takes a day off just to be with her.
… he buys her flowers just because.
When a good man loves a woman … he is fearless.
… he’s not afraid to show his love for her.
… he is honest about his needs.
… he is not afraid to cry in her arms.
… he is not afraid to lose her over being who he is.
When a good man loves a woman …
… he always has a smile ready.
… a kiss is never, ever, ever too long.
… his arms are always open.
… he places her first among equals.
Joeseph A. Cornacchia